It’s a fact: after start­ing a fam­i­ly, peo­ple gain weight faster and eas­i­er — and find it hard­er to lose it. This, of course, does not mean that you do not need to get mar­ried (and even more so, get divorced if you are already there), but it is worth know­ing the ene­my by sight. Look at what caus­es peo­ple to get fat most often in mar­riage — and say your firm “no!” extra pounds!

You drink more alcohol

It is a sci­en­tif­i­cal­ly proven fact: after mar­riage, spous­es begin to drink more — on aver­age, by 3–5 serv­ings of alco­hol per month. A bot­tle of wine for a joint din­ner, a glass of wine on a roman­tic evening, a glass of whiskey dur­ing an inter­est­ing con­ver­sa­tion… It’s time to think and stop: alco­hol, of course, can be use­ful, but only in very small dos­es.

Now you always have unhealthy snacks on hand

If unhealthy snacks are kept at hand (or in front of our eyes) in the house, we quick­ly gain excess weight — at least five kilo­grams. If your friend likes to chew some­thing harm­ful and high in calo­ries, ask her to buy only as much as she can eat — so as not to tempt you. Yes, and myself too, so what? Excess weight is excess for every­one.

You lead a less active lifestyle

Do you know what type of leisure time is most pop­u­lar among mar­ried child­less cou­ples? Watch­ing series and TV shows togeth­er. What do we most often do when we watch a movie? That’s the same thing. Don’t look for easy ways, don’t spend all your evenings in front of your lap­top, but go for a walk togeth­er, or ride bicy­cles, or go to a tram­po­line cen­ter and jump to your heart’s con­tent — in a word, try to spend your evenings as far as pos­si­ble from the sofa and refrig­er­a­tor.

She “sabotages” your fight against excess weight

It’s impos­si­ble to believe, but you have to: when one of the spous­es pulls him­self togeth­er and begins to lose weight, his part­ner feels a threat to the rela­tion­ship and anx­i­ety — what if the thin­ner spouse begins to be more pop­u­lar? What if he starts to despise a plumper hus­band or wife? What if he is los­ing weight to attract the atten­tion of some­one else? And in response to this anx­i­ety, the part­ner begins to sab­o­tage attempts to lose weight, some­times com­plete­ly uncon­scious­ly: he finds very impor­tant things that need to be done exact­ly at the time when the work­out is sched­uled. Pre­pares a par­tic­u­lar­ly tasty and high-calo­rie din­ner. Arranges an unplanned roman­tic evening with a bot­tle of wine and rich cheese. There are so many tricks!

You are being criticized

Or you can approach it from the oth­er side: let’s say you’ve gained a lit­tle (or even a lot!) weight, but instead of sup­port­ing you, your spouse con­stant­ly teas­es and crit­i­cizes you. Do you think this will work as an incen­tive and make you work hard­er in the gym? Unfor­tu­nate­ly, a study pub­lished in the jour­nal Per­son­al Rela­tion­ships shows the oppo­site: peo­ple who were con­stant­ly crit­i­cized for their appear­ance gained weight more often and more eas­i­ly than those whose spous­es did not for­get to tell their loved ones how beau­ti­ful they were. Crit­i­cism caus­es us stress and kills moti­va­tion — remem­ber this.

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