Los­ing weight is a means to achieve your true desires. It is the answer to this ques­tion that decides whether you will return to your old habits or not.

The answer to the ques­tion “Why?” — this is the key to your reg­u­lar­i­ty and adher­ence to the diet.

Why do you need the question “Why?”

Los­ing weight is not the eas­i­est and fastest process, as the diet and beau­ty indus­try tries to present it. Most of you rely on willpow­er to lose weight. How­ev­er, rely­ing on moti­va­tion and willpow­er does not work in the long term. When willpow­er runs out, and it always runs out, we give up because los­ing weight at some point becomes too dif­fi­cult and impos­si­ble.

This is why we need a WHY

WHY is your real rea­son to lose weight, which gives you strength.

WHY is what:

  • keeps you mov­ing in dif­fi­cult times;
  • get­ting out of bed to get to train­ing on a win­ter morn­ing;
  • helps you walk reg­u­lar­ly, even when you don’t feel like it;
  • Helps pri­or­i­tize meal prep and healthy eat­ing;
  • helps you stay com­mit­ted when the going gets tough.

Why do you really want to lose weight?

When you say you want to lose weight, you usu­al­ly think about your biggest pain point and label it as the cause. Com­mon pain points include:

  • health haz­ard
  • not being able to wear some­thing you’d real­ly like to wear
  • live with lim­i­ta­tions and pain
  • not being a great role mod­el for chil­dren

While these pain points may com­pel action, they are not the real WHY.

Some of the most com­mon rea­sons why peo­ple want to lose weight are:

  • To have con­fi­dence in inti­ma­cy with your part­ner and to look at your­self naked in the mir­ror.
  • To be con­fi­dent in what you do with­out wor­ry­ing about what oth­er peo­ple think.
  • To con­fi­dent­ly wear the clothes you want and attend pub­lic events open­ly.
  • Don’t let life pass you by.
  • Be hap­py and healthy.
  • Increase your mobil­i­ty and live life to the fullest.
  • Increase your ener­gy and vital­i­ty.
  • To be active and healthy in old age.

WHY is a real, deep thing, the aware­ness of which will give you real knowl­edge and sup­port.

How to find your reason?

There is a lit­tle exer­cise. The orig­i­nal is called “5 Whys,” but in real­i­ty there may be more.

First answer a sim­ple ques­tion: “Why do I want to lose weight?”, then ask your answer again the ques­tion: “Why?”, the next one in the same way, and so on until you get to your true motives.

How it works?

I want to lose weight because I have health problems

  1. I want to lose weight because I was just diag­nosed with dia­betes. (Why?)
  2. Because I don’t want my con­di­tion to get worse. (Why?)
  3. Because I don’t want to waste my time and mon­ey on doc­tor vis­its and treat­ments or die ear­ly. (Why?)
  4. Because I want to spend my time and mon­ey on things that make me hap­py. (Why?)
  5. So I can enjoy life and do what I want instead of get­ting sick? (Why?)
  6. I don’t want to become a bur­den to my part­ner or chil­dren. (Why?)
  7. Because this way they can do what they want with­out hav­ing to wor­ry about me. (Why?)
  8. So that I don’t have to wor­ry about my health, how it affects their life, or them resent­ing me. (Why?)
  9. Because I want to be free from wor­ry­ing about my health, and I want my chil­dren to love me and not resent me.


I want to lose weight so I can wear the clothes I want to wear.

  1. I want to lose weight so I can wear clothes that I actu­al­ly want to wear. (Why?)
  2. Because I don’t want to wear bor­ing clothes designed to hide my body. (Why?)
  3. Because I want to look good and feel con­fi­dent. (Why?)
  4. Because I don’t want peo­ple to see how big I am. (Why?)
  5. Because I don’t want to be judged by my weight. (Why?)
  6. Because I don’t want to be reject­ed. (Why?)
  7. Because I want to be free to wear what I like and have peo­ple love me.

Most answers to “Why” come down to love and free­dom.

If you try the exer­cise with a dif­fer­ent rea­son, you will find that you get almost the same answer.

Fol­low the chain until you find it dif­fi­cult to answer “why” to the final answer. This will be your true rea­son and strength.